NORWOODGROEP FORUM

10 juni

"Loving yourself enough to become free of addiction is a prerequisite to loving another person."

Genoeg van jezelf houden om van je verslaving af te kunnen komen is een eerste vereiste om van een ander te kunnen houden.

9 juni "Alcohol puts to sleep the part of your brain that says 'no' - and you know how important that part of your brain is when you're trying not to practice your particular style of loving too much. Sometimes we want to call him or stop by his house or spend the night with him, even though we...

8 juni

"Recovery means choosing only that which supports your serenity and well-being."

Aan je herstel werken betekent alleen datgene kiezen wat je innerlijke rust en welzijn ondersteunt.

7 juni "Many women who love too much have serious problems with endogenous depression. Trying to live a normal life while suffering from endogenous depression is a lot like trying to ski on a broken leg - very difficult and very painful. When struggling with depression, do not aim for perfectio...

6 juni "We are certain that if we show someone how much we love him, no matter how he treats us, he will change. What we are really showing him is that it is safe for him to remain the same." We denken dat als we iemand maar laten zien hoeveel we van hem houden, hoe slecht hij ons ook beha...

5 juni "People rarely change except through unbearable pain: When we relieve another's pain, we often short-circuit that person's motivation to change. This is why most of our efforts to solve another's problems actually prolong and perpetuate those problems. Unfortunately, when we love too muc...

4 juni "No therapist can be the paid solution to the client's problem. Taking your life to a therapist is not like taking your car to a mechanic. You are still responsible for identifying and correcting whatever isn't working." Je kunt bij geen enkele therapeut een oplossing 'kopen' voor j...

3 juni "Never, ever do more than half the work on another person's problem. When we try too hard to help another, we feel frustration and anger, and that other person feels guilt and resentment. Making necessary changes must be more important to the person who needs to do so than it is to those...

2 juni

"Everything we do naturally in response to another's addiction is wrong.

Wanting to help and wanting to punish are codependent reactions."

1 juni

"Two of recovery's promises are that life gets better and that we become truly helpful."

Twee beloften van herstel zijn dat het leven steeds beter wordt en dat we anderen echt kunnen helpen.

31 mei

"In recovery you will lose nothing that is truly for your own highest good."

In herstel zul je niets verliezen wat echt goed is voor je eigen hoogste goed.

30 mei

"It is through seeking our recovery that our fearful secrets are transformed into our cherished gifts."

Door ons herstel na te streven, worden onze angstige geheimen omgezet in waardevolle geschenken.

29 mei

"Life is, after all, about waking up and growing up. We make those processes more painful because we don't welcome them."

Uiteindelijk is het leven er om te ontwaken en te groeien. We maken deze processen pijnlijker omdat we ze niet verwelkomen.

28 mei

"Emotional pain is to the psyche what physical pain is to the body: a signal that something is sick or damaged."

Emotionele pijn is voor de psyche wat fysieke pijn is voor het lichaam: een signaal dat er iets ziek of beschadigd is.

27 mei "As relationship addicts, we do just as much damage to our children as a practicing alcoholic would because… - our mood swings are as erratic, dramatic, and unpredictable; - our actions are just as driven, just as irrational when we need a 'fix'; - our thoughts and feelings are nearly al...