NORWOODGROEP FORUM

15 december

"If what we have been doing all along really worked, we wouldn't need to recover."

Als wat we al die tijd hebben gedaan had gewerkt, zouden we niet hoeven herstellen.

14 december "No matter how open, accepting, and genuinely loving we become with recovery, there will still be people whose anger, hostility, and aggression will inhibit us from being all these things in their presence. To be vulnerable with them is to be masochistic. Therefore, lowering our bou...

13 december "When we are no longer loving too much, friends with whom we could once commiserate endlessly may now strike us as obsessed and unhealthy. Mutual misery as a criterion for friendship is replaced by more rewarding mutual interests. So what frequently happens with recovery is that as ...

12 december "As we recover from loving too much, we change how we relate to our parents and to our children. With our parents we become less needy and less angry, and often less ingratiating as well. We become much more honest, often more tolerant, and sometimes more genuinely loving. With our ...

11 december "It isn't possible to be too intelligent or too attractive or too charming or too well-bred or too well-off or too well-educated or too talented or too successful to love too much. None of these conditions prevents or precludes relationship addiction or, for that matter, any other k...

10 december "There are several phases in recovering from loving too much. The first phase begins when we realize what we are doing and wish we could stop. Next comes our willingness to get help for ourselves, followed by our actual initial attempt to secure help. After that, we enter the phase ...

9 december "As you become better able to nurture yourself, you may find that you've attracted someone who is able to nurture you. As we become healthier and more balanced, we attract healthier and more balanced partners. As we become less needy, more of our needs are met. As we give up the role...

8 december "When you are really ready to stop managing or controlling the man in your life, this also means that you must stop encouraging and praising him. Why? Because chances are you have used praise and encouragement to try to get him to do what you'd like, and therefore they must be number...

7 december "Recognize that your worth is great, that your talents are worthy of expression, that your fulfillment is as important as anyone else's, and that your best self is the greatest gift you have to give the world as a whole and, most especially, those closest to you." Erken dat jij ...

6 december "Detaching, which is vital to your recovery, requires that you disentangle your ego from his feelings and especially from his actions and their results. It requires that you allow him to deal with the consequences of his behavior, that you don't save him from any of his pain. You may...

5 december "You must listen carefully to your inner voice regarding what is good for you, right for you, and then follow it. This is how you develop healthy self-interest, by listening to your own cues. Up to now you've probably been nearly psychic at picking up other people's cues about how th...

4 december "The changes you are making in your life require that those around you change, too, and they will naturally resist. But unless you give credence to their indignation, it will be fairly short-lived. It is just an attempt to push you back into your old, selfless behavior, into doing fo...

3 december "The less you need a partner, the better partner you become - and the healthier partner you will attract (and be attracted to)." Hoe minder je een partner nodig hebt, des te betere partner word je zelf - en hoe gezonder de partner zal zijn die je aantrekt (en tot wie je je aange...

2 december "By developing your spirituality you have tools for finding relief that don't require that you manipulate anyone else into doing or being what you want. No one has to change in order for you to feel good. Because you have access to spiritual nourishment, your life and your happiness ...

1 december "A carefree, irresponsible man makes a charming acquaintance but is a poor prospect for a satisfying relationship. Until you can give yourself permission to be more free and easy, you'll need him to create the fun and excitement in your life." Een zorgeloze, onverantwoordelijke ...